About a year ago, I realized that because of my crazy busy life as a working mom, there were still days when I’d be saying goodnight to my kids and realize that we hadn’t really connected at all that day. Can you relate?
When we take time to connect with our kids every day, we stay in tune with what is going on in their lives.
As our kids grow, they change. Their hopes, dreams, fears, and concerns change. Connecting with them daily helps us take note of these changes and lets us lend a listening ear or helping hand when needed.
Yes, connecting with our kids is vital to building stronger relationships. Connections reduce stress and worry, resulting in stronger families.
Simple Ways to Connect with Your Kids Each Day
Your goal is to connect with your kid daily. I’ll be sharing a few ways you can do this that are super simple and won’t take a lot of work. Pick the most doable one and be consistent.
1 Eat a Meal Together
This is the easiest way for most of us to catch up with our kids.
We have a table rule of no electronics for kids or mom which means meal time is catch-up time. I share a fun story from work at the end of the day, or they tell me about their amazing plans for Minecraft creation at breakfast.
Tip: Now is not the time to work on table manners. Focus on your child and what they are telling you both in words and actions. Remember, your goal is to connect with your kids, not pick on table manners.
2 Cook Together
They feel less pressure because you are not staring at them. Right? Don’t stare at them.
Instead, have them do something useful such as chopping veggies, making a salad, or preparing the main dish while you share about your day. Don’t grill them; as you share, they often will too.
3 Make a Date
When I noticed my daughter copying my bad example of putting myself down, I took action. I made a plan on how to build her confidence, and now we have a weekly date.
Although the day changes each week due to my crazy schedule, I make sure we have at least 15 minutes each week to dig into our journal, have a treat, and just chat.
Sometimes it is like the floodgates open, and sometimes it is like pulling teeth.
The more you connect with your kids, the more you will know when to let it go or push. Right now, I do most of the talking, but some days, I hardly get a word in edgewise.
4 Take a Hike
Getting out in nature has always helped my kids open up. Fresh air and exercise never hurt anyone, either.
I try to walk every day both for exercise and to release stress. I ask one of them to come with me.
My son does not like to hike, but he will come once in a while. We walk to a duck pond and back for only about 10 minutes. If he starts chatting, we’ll sit outside to finish the conversation.
This is also a great way to connect as a family. We try to hit the trails once a week when the weather cooperates.
Either way, it doesn’t have to be fancy. A quick walk around the block, through a local park, or your backyard. The goal is to spend time with your child and listen when they talk.
5. Do Something They are Interested In
This one can be a bit tougher only because it might make it uncomfortable for you 😉
Take an interest in what your kids are interested in. Then, take it a step further.
For example, if your child loves reading, read one of the books they like yourself. Learn to play a video game they like. Listen to their favorite band.
This not only shows you really do care but also gives you something in common with your kids.
My husband did this with my son.
Before they started playing the same video game, they didn’t really have a lot to talk about. My husband likes sports, fishing, and the outdoors. My son likes to read, code, and create. There wasn’t a whole lot of connection going on. Until he took up the video game my son was playing.
Now they have something in common to talk about, strategize over and debate about.
You can do this too! Pay attention when your child is talking about their favorite book, online or board game, or song, and join them.
Connecting with our kids takes effort and time you may not think you have, but with a little creative thinking and being mindful you can easily connect with your kids.